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“A Wandering Mind is an Unhappy Mind”

Science Magazine

When I first started meditating, I was challenged with keeping the mind present. The mind has an agenda. Like a puppy, it wonders. At some point, I would start paying bills, sending emails, and buying toothbrushes while I sat with my legs crossed in a still position.

In Becoming Nobody Ram Dass, gives us a cold plunge reminder of our continuous journey. Our beautiful self is not the facades we build for society. Our mind constructs personas to react to the outside world. IT DOESN’T STOP, IT EVOLVES.

Research shows that we daydream almost half of the day, dressing up as partners, friends, children and professionals. Based on the same research, mind wandering has a negative correlation with happiness. Studies focusing on front-line workers in recent years show that mindfulness, on the other hand, has a direct positive correlation with reduced stress levels, increased happiness, and healthier lifestyle changes. 

Change

In mindfulness, catching the wandering mind and returning it to presence is how the real change occurs.

Meditation is only one of the ways we can live more fully in the present moment. The challenge with the wellness and self-help space is that there is so much information nowadays, but unless you feel and want to be healthy and happy, no book or program can promise miracles. 

With supportive practice, people start noticing the trance and use their tools, such as connection with breath, to overcome adversities. The onset of a daydream is a feeling of a pull and drifts into cyclical thoughts. The cadence is to usually jump quickly between topics, reminding the doer where something was missed or needs to be done and the multiverse scenarios. 

Built to evolve

The good news is this default function was built for evolution, as all else follows the Laws of Nature. 

– Consistency of practice. The onset of a journey usually starts with a life crisis we experience; it may be an accumulation of life events, financial problems, losing a loved one, betrayal, divorce, trauma and abuse, overworking, or heartbreak. As a result, within us, there is a shift. We start searching for answers or avoiding them. At this point, we reach for tools, books, soothers, guides, specialists, and practices to help with physical or emotional troubles. 

Once we break the rhythm of being on a healthy track, we return to daydreaming and feeling unhappy with our efforts, finding opportunities to nudge ourselves for falling short. We immediately become susceptible to the trance of unworthiness. 

The mindful practice is to keep reminding yourself that we are not meant to be perfect, especially on our recovery path. Any practice of choice, be it yoga, exercise, art, breathwork, acupuncture, nutrition, or all combined, is already re-wiring the neurons in the brain as long as the practice keeps going. Skip a day and go back into it with excitement, not punishment. 

+ self-nurturing throughout! 

The power of a supportive community exponentially benefits people’s mental and physical health. I consistently see that group breathwork experiences have luminous effects on people. Most of all, a safe community allows for the processing of emotions without fear of ridicule, guilt or inadequacy. It also spreads to the practice of all people involved. Like the trees, we can share and spread our happiness and healing. This is one of the critical aspects of the Reconnect Retreats, opening the space to vulnerability while the community is returning to basics to self-nurture and catch the wandering minds. 

On this beautiful and crisp Sunday afternoon in Toronto, I am feeling grateful for being alive and for having the opportunity to send you a message of love and care. Wishing you a deep connection with your life passion; follow it on a brave adventure, knowing that the goals are not perfection but change.

Sending ❤️

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